Dating Yourself is a Lifestyle

Do you love yourself? I can say that I do, but do my actions speak too?

Intentionally moving through my personal journey allowed me to see and believe how beautiful I am and that I am worthy of what I dream of [and more]!

I shouldn't need someone to tell me all that I am, that is the sprinkles on top of the icing. I used to tell myself all the worst things I have ever heard now, progressively, the most beautiful things I have ever heard. If someone else says it, the answer is 'I know.' or thank you.

I have been exploring a lot on my own, visiting museums, traveling to cities/countries, eating at restaurants, staying at hotels and hostels, hiking or biking. I do this because I realised it is self torture waiting for someone to do all the things I dream of with. How can I place my desires, my needs and my wants into someone else's hands? That is unfair.

When dating, thus, loving thyself you need to:

1. Remember that your safety is the utter most important. When you feel safe so will your surroundings.

2. Understand that there is nothing wrong with you, accept your past and forgive yourself no matter where you are in life.

3. Remember that the present is what's real, so if you need; take a few breaths and appreciate your surroundings when you may feel overwhelmed by thoughts.

4. Take nothing personal. What we think of each other is how we feel about ourselves. Therefore if you may feel triggered, fill that void with reassurance, kind words, affirmations. I am enough.

5. Be yourself. What do you want to do? Want to see? Self love is not a trend or an aesthetic, it is putting your needs first however you may need to do it. Self love is a lifestyle, and you be this even in a relationship. I am whole on my own.

So determining and understanding your personal needs is powerful because;

You will meet people who feel the same way.

You will meet people who love some of the things you love.

You will meet people who love you,

not because you need love.

You will know that any form of love from others is a gift.

When you want to take yourself out on a date, do it for you. Think about how you want to feel, what you want to see. Are you taking yourself out on a date for inspiration, for reflection, for connection, for nourishment, for growth, for health, to explore, to see, to feel.

The more you cherish the moments you are "alone", the more you will be able to cherish those around you. The reason why people are around you is because of you, each and every person in your reality is there because of you.

You matter. I matter.

Everyday is a date,

Wan Love <3